When you get too close to someone, you start discovering their flaws, this may lead you to alienation and you will probably reconsider the kind of relationship you wanna have with that person. But then again, don't you have your own flaws too? And don't you hope for that individual who will accept you as you are? See, this whole experience is just a test of empathy. Remember, the person in question is the same one you used to know, they came packed with their defects since day 1, you're uncovering them now 'cause they trusted you enough to let you explore all of them layers they employ as a core protection shield. Therefore, be thankful instead of being judgmental. You've been given access to a delicate private zone.
However, most of people prefer to leave when the other party is fully exposed, not only because their lack of empathy makes them unable to embrace the other, but also because they can't allow themselves to be exposed in return, which proves they never made peace with themselves, so how can they ever make it with others? ...
This story I'm striving hard to explain is not any less clear than the simple example of a beautiful painting, it's gorgeous when you look at it from far away, but the more you approach it, the more you notice all of these imperfections that don't devalue the piece of art, it wouldn't appear so majestic if it wasn't for those little grungy details. You just have to step back and see the bigger picture again. Same thing applies to humans, our scars, mistakes, and weaknesses make us who we are, and we shouldn't feel ashamed if some folks are unwilling to tolerate us.
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